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This test doesn’t measure your worth or your growth as a person.

It’s just a mirror. A chance to see yourself more clearly.

INSTRUCTIONS:

Answer each statement honestly, based on your real life—not on who you think you should be.

Then give each statement a score:

0 = doesn't seem familiar

1 = rarely

2 = sometimes

3 = often

4 = almost always.

The result will be sent to you by email.

1. I find myself taking responsibility for others' feelings and trying to make them feel better, even if it’s draining me.

2. I try to maintain a connection and avoid conflict as long as I can, even if it means taking the blame or giving up my own needs and boundaries.

3. I often say "It's okay" or "That’s fine," even though I really feel it’s not okay, or I wanted something else.

4. I understand other people's perspectives so well that my own experience easily takes a back seat.

5. I feel guilty when I say no or set a boundary.

6. I feel someone else's disappointment or anger deeply.

7. Without realizing it, I often try not to bother anyone—for example, I'd rather settle for

a cold coffee than complain or ask for better service.

8. I stay in situations and relationships that drain me because I don't want to disappoint the other person.

9. I find myself explaining myself endlessly so that others can understand me better.

10. I often realize only afterwards that I have crossed my own boundaries or ignored my needs again.

11. In a relationship, it's really hard for me to say directly what I need or want.

12. I feel responsible for maintaining a good atmosphere in relationships and at home.

13. It is easier for me to focus on someone else than on myself.

14. I often find myself attuned to what others are feeling or needing — sometimes even before they say anything.

15. I feel an internal pressure to agree, go along, or say yes — even when I want to say no.

16. I tend to do a lot for others, even at the expense of my own energy, and I don’t always

notice it in the moment.

17. If someone questions me, blames me, or twists the situation, I easily start doubting myself.

18. I often find it easier to believe others than to trust my own experience or sense of what feels true to me.

19. Trusting my own voice feels difficult, especially in disagreement or conflict.

20. If someone gets upset or disappointed, I may soften my words or take things back to restore peace.

21. I find it hard to speak for myself or bring up things that have hurt me.

22. When I try to express my needs or boundaries, my body tightens and the words don’t come easily.

23. I tend to avoid difficult conversations, even when I know something isn’t right for me.

Now add up your points!

SUMMARY

0–12 points

You are quite in touch with yourself and your needs.

13–24 points

You recognize situations in which you sometimes ignore yourself to please others. You know what needs to change.

25–36 points

You take responsibility for other people's feelings, try to avoid conflict, and often put others' needs before your own.

37–48 points

You have long been accustomed to adapting, carrying too much, and putting yourself aside. You may feel lonely even in your relationship.

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Congratulations! Awareness is the first step back to yourself

—to reclaim your voice, your power, and a life that truly lights you up.
Thank you for giving

yourself this moment.

Gentle reminder: The fact that you recognized yourself means that something in you is already in motion.

Change doesn’t start from perfect boundaries.

It starts with you recognizing what’s really happening and why.

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